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To begin, my apologies for not blogging before. I momentarily stopped due to some compromising circumstances forcing me to channel my energy into other, not-so-fun activities. No fear, here I am! I have a bunch of back posts that I never actually posted so I will try to get them up here soon... stick with me, much like the economy, I am in a state of flux...


How interesting is the phrase “I am sorry, but I?”

Think about it… It is an apology, followed by an excuse that is relevant to the apologizer. Let’s use a real-life example. “I am sorry I didn’t call, but I was out late.” Or “I am sorry I didn’t come over, but I forgot.” How many times can you hear “I am sorry, but I…” before you stop to wonder how selfish the phrase might be…

If every time you hear a SBI comment from a significant other it is a selfish excuse, then how many times can you put up with it before you realize that person has no regard for you or who you are…

It is funny how when someone gives a SBI we are quick to defend him/her due to our personal interests. When they use the phrase “but I” we often overlook the “I,” go straight to the excuse, rationalize then spin it so it sounds sensible to those whom with we discuss the situation. The simple word “I” put in the middle of the sentence changes the entire meaning to express an action of selfishness and not of sincere concern or apologetic nuances.

Ok, in some cases it is understandable. “I am sorry I forgot your birthday, but I fell down and experienced amnesia and frankly, have no idea who you are so how could I know your birthday?” is a medical excuse that cannot be frowned upon. Or maybe “I am sorry I slammed your car into the wall, but a bee stung my eye causing instant swelling and I damn near went blind instantly and was too stunned to take my foot off the gas and hit the break.” Clearly something uncontrollable and therefore, should be barred from punishment.

So you see, SBI is about 95% selfish and 5% other. That means for every 100 excuses, only 5 are legitimate (and you can reduce the fraction to figure out other patterns, but I only do simple math) and those are terrible statistics. Next time you try to defend a “Sorry, but I..,” be sure the clause after the “I” is sensible…and DO NOT overlook the “I.”